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🏳️‍🌈Queer feminist anticapitalist financial educator + business design consultant / facilitator/ podcast: Have a Nice Life / I contain multitudes

An incomplete list of call-ins over the years to b An incomplete list of call-ins over the years to be sure!

Joking aside, money is one of the areas in life people struggle so genuinely to clearly see and understand their relationship to. 

I love my clients and every call out is appropriate to the distinct relationship we have agreed to ... And sometimes we gotta get spicy to get progress!!

#moneycoach #radicalmoney #radicalacceptance #realtalk #changeyourmoneychangeyourlife
I hear people say this All The Time: "I just wanna I hear people say this All The Time:
"I just wanna buy some land with my friends..."

Well, you could...! 

If you:
1/ find a few trusted people and gather down payment money [does not have to be equal, often one person puts in the biggest share to start]

2/ make an agreement about how to pay for and do scouting, startup [solar? immediate renovations?], monthly expenses, and ongoing maintenance, whether via money or labor

3/ make an exit plan that accounts for folks payments and sweat equity - before anyone ever needs this

4/ bonus: create a joint checking account 

5/ write this all down

Meanwhile:
• Get prequalified for a mortgage to see what price range you can buy - using a local broker is usually better than a bank!

• Scout locations

• Create criteria of things that are must have and nice to have on the land and nearby

• Get a realtor to help you with options, zoning, programs...

• Get preapproved for a mortgage (unless you're buying in cash) once you're otherwise close to ready

I work with groups to make these agreements listed above. And, the Polyamory Legal Advocacy Coalition + the LGBTQ+ Advocacy Clinic at Harvard put out this great guide to buying property with chosen family! ...https://harvard.turtl.co/story/how-to-buy-property-with-chosen-family/page/1

#buyacompound #livewithfriends #landproject #queerlandproject #offgridliving
After going no contact with my evangelical family After going no contact with my evangelical family in my 20s, I made some unhelpful decisions and learned lots of things the hard way. 

Here's three things I did wrong (and what I did right, later):

1/ I took a soul sucking job because I needed money (then, I quit it once I had a tiny safety net)

2/ I spent a lot of time feeling ashamed and wishing I had a different family (but I also built beautiful chosen family and eventually let go of that shame)

3/ I felt alone in my struggle (and then I made connections with other people who'd done this and lived fantastically to tell the tale)

Do you relate? What else would you add?

#nocontact #exvangelical #withoutanet #familymoney #workingclassrealtalk
A spicy take on war tax resistance: you might have A spicy take on war tax resistance: you might have great motivation to do it, but .. you might not *actually* do it. 

If that's you, no shade, but what is an action you can use that motivation that you *will do* instead?

& Go off queens who prove me wrong 💓

#wartaxresistance #nowarwithiran #taxresistance
Hello to my friends and new followers 💖 ... this a Hello to my friends and new followers 💖 ... this account is about liberation ✊🏻
Things people get wrong about self employment (fro Things people get wrong about self employment (from two self-employed coaches):⁠
* Secretly feeling that making money is wrong⁠
* Thinking its morally superior to be self-employed⁠
* Not taking the chance to pay people well⁠
* Believing you have to have One True Way Only to get clients⁠
* Acting like taxes are always a “later” problem⁠
* You don’t ever have to raise your prices⁠
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What else do people get wrong about #selfemployment??⁠
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For more, listen to Episode 8: Considering Self-Employment in the Have A Nice Life podcast!⁠
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#taxseason #smallbusiness #careercoach #moneycoach
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“This class was designed for people like me! Damien shares my values of social justice, and helped me to figure out fair, ethical ways to relate to money.”
– Dara B., dareconsulting.com

“I feel more calm about money after this. I realized that I don’t have to use the same symbols and judgements that everyone else seems to use when they talk about this stuff. That’s really powerful.”
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